A solid marriage has at its core trust, communication and above all honesty. A marriage lacking in any of these categories is bound for some bumpy roads. Quite often, these core issues manifest themselves in the form of money problems and fights about money. Money fights are the symptom, while a lack of honesty and trust are the root of the problem. Complete financial transparency is absolutely vital in a healthy marriage. If you can’t trust each other with money, then you’ve got much bigger problems that need to be addressed through good marriage counseling.
If you don’t get help for these underlying issues, you are leaving a big wedge in your marriage. We all know what wedges do, they split things in half. I don’t want to scare you into thinking your marriage is doomed, but I do want to spur you into action. In coming clean to your spouse, he/she will really feel betrayed, because you broke trust. It won’t be pleasant, but neither is digging out a splinter with a needle. If you don’t remove the splinter, it festers and gets infected. This infection can get so bad that it can lead to death. If you both fight through the tough times your marriage will come out stronger than before. So please, get help and remember, honesty really is the best policy.
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