Saturday, December 31, 2016

Our Marathon to Debt Freedom

Today marked the 7th anniversary of our becoming debt free, so I thought it would be fun to share the story I originally shared on our family blog about the journey. It was a spectacular way to end the decade. Enjoy and Happy New Year!

December 31, 2009
Well everyone, It's official! we made our final student loan payment this morning and we are DEBT FREE!!! (well except that pesky mortgage). This is the story of the financial marathon we ran over the last 28 months paying off a grand total of $24,046.40!

In the summer of 2007 we were in a real pickle. That spring we had decided to replace some of the windows in our house and since we didn't quite have the money to pay for them we signed on for a 6 months same as cash loan. This was fine since we hadn't received our tax return yet and would easily have the money when it came due in September. Enter life happening. My husband's truck had some costly repairs that took a lot of the money. Then we made the stupid mistake of buying a laptop to work on a programming side job that when paid would easily cover it's cost. Well you can probably guess what happened, the deal fell through and he never finished the project because he never got paid. That summer we scrimped and saved every penny we could to put toward the looming window bill. I was not about to have a truck load of interest tacked on for not paying in full.

In July my best friend loaned me a book by Dave Ramsey called The Total Money Makeover. I being a financial geek absolutely devoured the book and was so ready to be done with borrowing money forever. This did not go over so well the hubs. He didn't see the point in not using our credit card to pay for everyday items and groceries because we payed off the bill every month and we got reward points for using it as well. He saw it as free money. I was tired of having no money left after the bill was paid. I found it very hard to control the budget and was always frustrated. Despite his misgivings about this new plan that I had for our future he went along with it. By September we had stopped using plastic and had the money to pay for our windows.

After we paid for the windows I couldn't wait to start attacking what remained of our car loan. We paid it off in May 2008, with the help of the stimulus check. By then I was expecting our second child and so we pushed pause on the snowball. Then in August when I was 6 months pregnant our air conditioner died. Fortunately, we were able to get a good deal on both a new AC and 2-stage furnace. Unfortunately, this cost $5100 and added 6 months to the process. In March of this year we finally were able to turn up the heat and attack our last debt- the dreaded student loan. When Jared graduated 6 years ago the balance was $13,750 and by March we had whittled it down to just under $9000. Our goal (well more my goal, hubs was just going with the flow but definitely more excited since we were closer) was to be debt free by Christmas. As you can see we missed that by a week. This is of course was because the events the end of April when our house flooded and we had another $1000 emergency called an insurance deductible.

I didn't think we'd make it by the end of the year until last week when we decided to sell my husband's truck.  This was our last big sacrifice to become debt free and so for the time being we will be a one car family. But since hubs carpools and I stay home during the day most of the time, we'll manage just fine. The truck will get it's own blog entry later. But for now we are basking in the FREEDOM that comes from not having any payments except a mortgage.

In summary, the last 28 months were some of the most grueling and tedious of my life. I really do feel like we've run a marathon but it was worth every hard step of the way to have this feeling of peace! Now I don't have to worry about how much we'll be able to put towards debt. The fun begins in seeing the fruits of our labors appear in the form of the savings account balance.

***Here are some key tips if you are looking for a way out of debt***
1. Switch to a cash system and stop using credit or debt cards for everyday purchases. Studies have shown, and I have learned from personal experience, that you spend on average 15% more using plastic. This was the major turning point for us in this process. Plus it makes it so much easier to balance the checkbook. When the money runs out you must stop spending. We only have 3 categories- groceries, eating out and clothing. I'm a big believer that this method works because it has removed the guilt I felt by spending money buying clothes even though we needed them. One caution- be realistic in what you truly need. It'll take a few months to get it down.
2. Sacrifice to win! One of Dave's sayings is 'Live like no one else, so later you can live like no one else'. In other words, cut back on things now temporarily so later you can have the freedom to truly do what you want with your money, instead of paying it all to some bank.
3. Keep going when the going gets tough. This process is long and sometimes hard but when you keep going and push through the pain, you reap the benefits. Don't let yourself be distracted by the new toy your neighbor has or the great vacation your co-worker just got back from.
4. Get on the same page as your spouse. This method makes you face the financial skeletons in your closet. If you are already fighting about money with your spouse, you may need marriage counseling to work through the issues. But your marriage will be stronger as a result. Again, it's worth it!

Well, I applaud you if you actually have taken the time to read this entire post. As you can see, this is why I am a geek, because I love this stuff. And that is why my next step is to become a trained financial counselor to help others along their journey. Hopefully this will happen in April. For now I just have one more thing to add.
WE'RE DEBT FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, December 16, 2016

Giving- The most fun you will ever have with money!

When you think about it, there are only 3 basic things you can do with money- Spend it, Save it or Give it away. Of the 3, giving is definitely the most fun. Don't get me wrong, I get a rush when I buy something nice for myself and when I transfer money into savings. But these moments are fleeting. When we give, especially this time of year, it evokes only one emotion- pure joy! Think about it. To be able to bless someone else's life holds absolutely no comparison.

"Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly or of necessity: For God loveth a cheerful giver." 
2 Corinthians 9:7

For me and my husband, this has become our driving force, our "why" we are responsible with money. Earlier this year we added a giving fund to our budget. This is separate from the tithe we give our church. We have it specifically for when we see someone in need and want to help. Let me tell you. It has been out of this world fun! More so than we ever thought possible. To make a difference in someone's life, and sometimes anonymously, has been one of the greatest joys we have known. So if you are searching for a greater purpose in life, try doing this. It will rock your world to bring a smile to another's face or tears to someone's eyes.

Friday, July 8, 2016

Stop Eating Your Retirement

One of the saddest things I see while helping people with their finances are those nearing retirement who have worked hard their entire lives and have absolutely nothing to show for it. What's worse is when I see young couples in their 20's or 30's spending everything, every month. I know what it's like to be this way. I remember rationalizing that it was okay because we weren't spending  more money than we had... Boy was I wrong. 

"There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man spendeth it all.” Proverbs 21:20

Luckily, I learned the value of this scripture in Proverbs while still in my 20's. It became my battle-cry for change. Living paycheck to paycheck was stressful and always made me feel like I was failing. I didn't put it all together until I realized what I thought was budgeting, really wasn't. Having a bit of money left at the end of the month is just luck, not a budget. A Budget is deliberately telling your money where to go. This means setting limits on how much you spend in certain categories (like eating out or fun activities) to make sure you can hit your goals. On the flip side, it also gives you permission to spend in areas that would previously cause stress. Clothing was this way for me. We would go a couple of months without buying anything and then all of sudden spent $100 or more. It always killed me. 

So where do you get started if you are sick and tired of this frustration? 
1~ There is no such thing as a perfect budget. It changes month to month and most of the time during the course of a month. 
2~ A budget is month specific- This month's income vs. expenses. You don't plan for the average of your utility bill. You plan for what it is that month. 
3~ Use cash for everyday expenses and categories that you have a hard time controlling. This is my secret budgeting weapon because it's simple. When the envelope is empty you stop spending until the next month or pay period. This is where creative meals with leftovers turns into a character building moment. I only have 4 cash categories- Groceries, Clothing, Eating out, and Baby. If you are leery of carrying cash, only get out what you need for that week or pay period. Over time it will get easier.
4~ If you are married, both of you need to give input AND agree on the budget. Nothing is worse for a marriage than for one partner to feel like the other came down from Mount Sinai with the budget on stone tablets. This also means that if you need to adjust something, you agree to change it together. No, this does not mean after the fact saying, "By the way, there was a really great sale on [fill in the blank]. I just had to get them even though we didn't have anything left in that category." If you are having trouble getting on the same page financially with your spouse, take some time to dream together. Something like, "You know, someday I really want to be able to visit..." or "Wouldn't you love to drive a... someday?" Or my personal favorite, "I can't wait to be able to just give crazy amounts of money to people in need!" Find that common ground and make that your "why". 

"If you have a strong enough why, you can get through almost any how."

I heard this quote earlier this week and knew I had to include it. The why is your motivation to keep going. Another great idea is to post pictures around your house to remind you why you are sacrificing X and Y now, to have Z later. If this doesn't work, you have more serious marriage problems that need to be addressed with a trained therapist or counselor. Trust me, we've been there and it will help.
5~ Once your budget is established and you are out of debt, use that extra money to invest. Even as little as $100/month can make all the difference. We're literally talking weekly pizza or latte money here.

Taking control of your money is hard. While paying off debt and learning to save is hard, it's a lot harder to be facing retirement trying to figure out how to live off of Social Security. So please stop eating your retirement! It makes for some awfully expensive poop down the road.