Caught in the Middle

I was talking to my neighbor yesterday about the delicate balancing act between paying off your home, saving for college and saving for retirement.  She posed the question that I'm sure you have asked yourself, "How do you do it all?"  It got me thinking about all of you who are caught in the middle between saving for yourself and your kids' future.  How do you plan?

There are a couple of things you need to take care of before you'll be ready to juggle these well.

1~ Be completely out of debt, except for the house

2~ Have 3-6 months of expenses in an emergency fund

Not having an emergency fund or having debt payments detract and distract you from your savings goals.  It's a lot harder to juggle 4 or 5 balls than it is to juggle 3.  You end up feeling spread too thin and discouraged.  It's easier to tackle one thing at a time.  If you have a pile of debt, it's hard to save for anything, period.  The last thing you want to do is to borrow from your retirement or kids' college fund to cover an emergency.  If this sounds really simple and unsophisticated, it is.  But once you are out of debt and have that emergency fund, you have two less things pulling you away from your goals.  Remember, there is great power in focus.

Once you are focused, it becomes a question of priority.  Ideally, you do it all at once- retirement, college, and pay off the house early.  But if you have to choose, put your retirement first.  This will always trump saving for anything else.  It's like the reminder we get when we fly, about the oxygen mask; always secure yours first before helping others.  After retirement is taken care of and depending on what phase of life you're in will determine if you're more aggressive with college, the house or other goals.

One last note on college savings.  If you do have the resources and desire to also save for college, set limits.  Decide what you can and are willing to pay for.  Let your kids know early and often that they will be expected to work hard to get scholarships and get a job while in school.  You may choose to limit the funds to pay for an in-state college or university instead of a costly private school.  Remember, companies hire more based on experience, work ethic, and attitude than they do from where you went to school.  Besides, who wants to raise pampered trust fund babies? I don't, and I wouldn't no matter how much money we had.  Looking back on my own college experience; the lessons of discipline, hard work and seeing something through to the end were just as important as the content itself.